German dating vs american dating
If Germans need a new word, they just combine multiple other words together to make a new word. They go around your wrists instead of under your arms! Learning how to ride a bike in Germany is totally different than in the USA. First, casual dating/hook-up culture isn’t as prevalent in Germany as it is in the USA.German kids are given bikes in which they push themselves along with their feet. In contrast, kids in the USA start by having training wheels. If Germans get into relationships, it goes from 0 to 100 in like a few weeks. I mean, all my German friends in relationships will probably be in the relationship for years and years and years. Which actually makes me wonder how Germans ever form relationships! I used to babysit for a German/American family in Heidelberg.We’ve compiled their advice below in this guide to bi-national relationships.“After being married for 14 years, I came to the conclusion that what really matters is that the person you live with has an open mind for your culture and background.” –Nadia and Ted “Being open-minded and talking about possible misunderstandings is essential in a multi-cultural relationship.” -Ratna and Nele “Being in a cross-cultural relationship takes a lot of patience and tolerance, and it can take a while until one gets used to the other.Back to age, and unfortunately the double standard, it is also not unusual for young German men to date woman considerably older than they; the understanding being that it is good experience or training for the men.Anyway, returning to our date - it is expected that if a man has asked a woman out, he is to pay for the evening.A sophisticated, and independent woman, Ingrid six years later is still puzzled by this ''custom." On the other hand.a woman may consider it an insult if no romantic interest at all were expressed.
So in order to avoid frustration and embarassement, there are some “Do's and Dont’s” you may want to be aware of.
German men and women traditionally marry at an older age than their American counterparts; and they spend much of their adolescence and early to mid-twenties dating various people and going out with groups as opposed to the one-on-one dating or "going steady." Along this line, a German woman who is an acquaintance and an attorney practicing in Frankfurt, spoke to me of a year spent as an exchange student in an American university.
After a first date with an American classmate, she was genuinely flabbergasted by his expectations of sleeping with her afterwards.
My future children will most definitely have a German bike for the selfish purpose of watching them look absolutely adorable. It is definitely more accepted to have kids out-of-wedlock so couples might have a child or two and then get married. The wife was American and one day she asked me if I was seeing anyone.
Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but it still hard for me to ever think of purposely having a child before marriage. After answering “no” (cue the sympathy for my non-existent love life), I added, “because you know, German men never make moves!